http://backingin.com/2010/02/17/have-we-met-before/ My thoughts about stuff... Tue, 02 Aug 2011 15:29:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://backingin.com/2010/02/17/have-we-met-before/comment-page-1/#comment-112 admin Mon, 22 Feb 2010 21:09:37 +0000 http://backingin.com/?p=389#comment-112 I'll try that next time, but where do I find the group of friends? :-) Just kidding. Everybody loves me and I'm very popular. I’ll try that next time, but where do I find the group of friends? :-) Just kidding. Everybody loves me and I’m very popular.

]]> http://backingin.com/2010/02/17/have-we-met-before/comment-page-1/#comment-110 Driveshaft Mon, 22 Feb 2010 00:42:54 +0000 http://backingin.com/?p=389#comment-110 Next time, create a group of friends around you at the party. You're a smart and very funny guy, use that. Around four other people will do fine. What you need to be is the man in the circle. You need to be the guy making people laugh, the center of attention but DO NOT PAY ATTENTION TO HER ACROSS THE ROOM. She will see the clique and will see you as the center. You are now the alpha male. People want to hang out with the fun crowd, be in on the joke. If she tries to join the group, fine, but don't talk to her. Don't acknowledge she's there. It will drive her mad! She will begin to doubt herself and, at the same time, see you, the center of attention, as a challenge. It's counter-intuitive but if she sees you as an omega-man, an outsider, it will never happen. Keep her at arms length. If she tries to butt in or say something cute, act like you didn't hear it. After 20 or so minutes she will insist that you listen to her. If she is with a friend, talk to her friend. Seriously, this works. You are shifting the context. You are the same person, just seen differently by others. It's marketing. Create the situation so she will want to approach you. If she sees you with others, she will trust you more. This isn't easy and will take time but, believe me, it works. Next time, create a group of friends around you at the party. You’re a smart and very funny guy, use that. Around four other people will do fine. What you need to be is the man in the circle. You need to be the guy making people laugh, the center of attention but DO NOT PAY ATTENTION TO HER ACROSS THE ROOM. She will see the clique and will see you as the center. You are now the alpha male. People want to hang out with the fun crowd, be in on the joke. If she tries to join the group, fine, but don’t talk to her. Don’t acknowledge she’s there. It will drive her mad! She will begin to doubt herself and, at the same time, see you, the center of attention, as a challenge. It’s counter-intuitive but if she sees you as an omega-man, an outsider, it will never happen. Keep her at arms length. If she tries to butt in or say something cute, act like you didn’t hear it. After 20 or so minutes she will insist that you listen to her. If she is with a friend, talk to her friend. Seriously, this works. You are shifting the context. You are the same person, just seen differently by others. It’s marketing. Create the situation so she will want to approach you. If she sees you with others, she will trust you more. This isn’t easy and will take time but, believe me, it works.

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